Porch People

I never wondered if there were porches in heaven until after I heard my cousin Becky had passed away. There I was on Christmas Eve morning, unable to sleep and imagining she and my mom reunited again. If there’s a back porch in heaven that’s where they are! Sharing stories and laughing. Becky was a porch person. And some of my favorite memories with her happened there.

How do you write about a person who thinks you are some crazy kind of gifted writer? Her confidence in me has always far exceeded my own. But that’s Becky. In fact, she was such a natural “cheerleader” that I had a cheer captain trophy made for her! I saw it on the bookcase in her living room last night, where those of us she has cheered on and loved were gathered. I also saw my artwork she had accumulated since I-can’t-even-remember-when. It’s all over the house. This makes me cry to even type that. If you have been following me, you may have read her comments or reviews. I can’t tell you how many people told me yesterday “Oh! You’re Amy! She gave me ….” And shared about something I had created that she had gifted them. (Well, now I’m in puddles as I write this.)



"Becky & Ted", one of their pieces I painted that hangs in their home.

Back before texting was a thing we would email each other almost daily. I mentioned I thought I might try to show my work or participate in an art show. That’s all it took! She sent me a book about getting out of the boat and stepping out in faith. And from then on, she was always pushing me to use my gifts. I am forever indebted. If you have a painting of mine or if I’ve ever pushed you to use your gifts, Becky is a big reason why.

I have painted eggs for years and said they are like people to me. We are flawed and fragile yet full of potential. New creations. And the feathers I paint represent the memories we leave behind. When I was loading my suitcases into the car this morning, I saw a BRIGHT purple feather laying on the ground and I stopped to pick it up and bring it home as a keepsake. It was from one of the many colorful feather boas worn last night as we celebrated the life and legacy of Becky just the way she wanted us to. As I drove down the driveway I saw more feathers of different colors flittering about with the breeze. To some it may look like a mess that needs to be cleaned up. But I saw reminders of memories I will cherish forever. 


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Sister-Cousins gathered to celebrate our Becky complete with her signature feather boas.

Becky on her back porch

Becky on her back porch

Where grief and love have been poured out can feel like holy ground. And for a short time, it feels like heaven and earth are much closer to each another. Now I have a bright purple feather to remind me of one such sacred time and the gift of having my cousin Becky in my life.

If I get to heaven before you do, you know where to find me! 

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