Gather Ye Rosebuds While Ye May

“But if you listen real close, you can hear them whisper their legacy to you. Go on, lean in. Listen, you hear it? – – Carpe – – hear it? – – Carpe, carpe diem, seize the day boys, make your lives extraordinary.” -John Keating, Dead Poets Society

Today I was finally able to watch the movie, my all time favorite movie, with my son. I fell in love with the Dead Poets Society when it first came out, and while we were watching it today, I couldn’t help but wonder if this movie inspired a movement in teaching. I also thought about an experience on our summer vacation and how together they helped me make a decision this week.

We were on our way out of the Grand Canyon after sunset and heading to our cabin when we stumbled upon this sign. A perfect spot for a family photo to commemorate the trip! As we got closer, we saw a woman taking several photos of the sign. After noticing that she was alone, I offered to take a picture of her with it. She was thrilled! So together we took several photos of her in front of and behind this sign with her camera. She then insisted she return the favor and she took this one of us.

Her name was Tina and it did not take long to learn her story. She was traveling alone on a cross country trip that had just begun in California and would take her back east via her hometown of Philadelphia. She was with a large touring group, all strangers, and had been assigned a roommate. But unfortunately, they were not finding much in common so she was very much touring solo. Thus no one to take her picture.

Soon it was quite dark and we did not think she should walk alone to her cabin so we insisted we give her a ride and she accepted. Once we were in the car, she shared something I have not been able to forget. Tina’s husband had recently passed away. They had enjoyed a long life together and you could hear the heartache in her voice as she told us about him. Then, with a note of courage, she shared that this trip was for them. She had made a decision to take the trip they always had dreamed of but never found time to do.

“I went to the woods because I wanted to live deliberately, I wanted to live deep and suck out all the marrow of life, To put to rout all that was not life and not when I had come to die discover that I had not lived.” -Henry David Thoreau

This week I have been given one of those “once in a lifetime opportunities”. It was a decision I wrestled with a good bit and discussed with my husband. Should I do this “thing” that was offered to me? Prayer is key of course, but I always think “Carpe Diem!” and I thought about Tina. So with my adventurous spirit once again stirred into action, I accepted.

Like the words of Robert Herrick that I first heard in the Dead Poets Society,

“Gather ye rosebuds while ye may,
Old Time is still a-flying.”

(Part of the adventure is that I don’t have too many details and I’m not allowed to discuss it yet. Keep an eye on my social media because it’s very possible I’ll be sharing the excitement!)

Don’t be like Mrs. Muss

“Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen.”

– Brene’ Brown

I’d like to introduce you to Mrs. Muss. She once resided in my grandmothers home although I can’t say she made an impression on me. It wasn’t until she took residence at my mom’s house that I paid her any mind. She was like the ever present guest at gatherings on display in the dining room. Inevitably someone would ask, “Who is she?” and the answer was always “That’s Mrs. Muss”.

You know those moments when it feels like you’re the last to “get” things? It was not until years later, and my asking more questions, that I finally got the joke. No one knew who she was! And her name was short for “Mrs. Anonymous.” Another example of my family’s humor. Clever! But WHO was she?

“What we know matters but who we are matters more”

– Brene’ Brown

Being the Nancy Drew type it did not take me long to connect her portrait to some letters we had also inherited dating back to the late 1700’s. With the help of google and stamps on the back of the portrait I estimated the date of this painting to be around 1840-1845. Those dates are also about the time that, according to the antique letter collection, Sir Captain Lewis Fisher passed away.

Mom and I had never noticed that she is wearing a black arm band before. Aha! This is his widow! Ladies and gentleman I’d like to introduce you to Mrs. Ursula Bacon Fisher. Also known as Lula. Also known as Mrs. Muss. If you have any ancestry.com experience, you know that finding out much about women is very difficult. Thankfully the letters tell her story. Leave her mark. Lula was here.

So why do I say “Don’t be like Mrs. Muss”? I’ve been contemplating my own story lately. There are many books and seminars about “story”. Our stories matter! Don’t make someone go Nancy Drew on you to find out who you are and what makes you YOU.

“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”

– Brene’ Brown

I’ll be posting my snippet short stories periodically on Facebook. Perhaps together they will make a future blog post. So tell me. Do you journal? Are you also learning the importance of story? Here’s hoping we all grow deeper connections and find the bravery to be vulnerable.

Some resources are listed below. If you have others please share in the comments!

Anything by Brene’ Brown
Donald Miller’s Storyline Blog or his latest book, “Scary Close: Dropping the Act and Finding True Intimacy”
Elizabeth Gilbert’s book “Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear”

A Closer Look

It was a bit of an experiment. How about I try a pair of “computer glasses”, only a bit of a further distance so I can wear them when I paint? But after a long day of painting yesterday, I’m sold! I think my painting actually improved. Perhaps because I am more relaxed with a greater field of vision and not craning my neck to look down my nose and see higher up. I love my new “painting glasses”.

A friend made the comment recently that my paintings come across so much more impressive in person. That the detail gets lost on screen. Hmmm. Perhaps my work loses something online. So I have been trying to show more close ups lately. All of this has had me thinking about “vision”, what we see, and the importance of details.

In my grandmother’s living room there was a very, very old painting. It was murky and dark and I loved the patina. It wasn’t until I had started painting full-time and took a closer look, that I discovered there was a woman in the painting! And even more surprising, there is a bearded man under that tree that seems to be waiting for her! She has a red bow on her bonnet and he has on a top hat. Can you see them?

How could this have been around our family for so many years and none of us see that? Well, I have made up my own little story behind it and we have called it “The Rendezvous Tree”. It is oil on panel and I think it’s a plein air painting probably from the early 1800s I would guess. Looking closely is something I think I do well. Not just in what I paint but in people and situations. For some reason, it’s in my wiring. Good or bad. Have you ever been struck by what you didn’t see that was “right beneath your nose” or “staring you straight in the face” the entire time? I love this quote my cousin Jocelyn shared with me:

That sums it up pretty well. I pray I am not so distracted that I would miss something important. I don’t want to miss a thing! How about you?

The “Bono Project” – Chasing A Dream

One of my favorite questions to ask friends is “If you could invite any 6 people in the world to dinner, who would it be?” or “If you were the host on the Tonight Show, who would be your guests, your comedian and your music performer?” To both of those questions, Bono has always been among my dream guest list as someone I’d love to meet and talk with.

In my last blog, I shared the story of my friend Sheila and I collaborating to create the “New Creation” limited edition necklace. About that time I got another one of my crazy ideas. So I texted this to her…

“Goofy thought. Do you think you could maybe make one with one of my iris paintings in it for a rock star? I’m going to see U2 in NYC in July. Front row. I’ve long wanted to get an iris to Bono. It’s his mom’s name and they have a song titled Iris on the latest album. See!! Goofy!”

Her response was:

“EEEEEEK! Girl. Let’s dream big and do it. Get me the pic/file/whatever. We have nothing to lose.”

For years I have dreamed of giving Bono one of my iris paintings. I knew it was his mother’s name and thought he may like it. Silly perhaps, but a dream I would think about when I would paint and listen to U2 in the studio. It’s not easy to carry a painting to a concert and then try to find a way to hand it off to a major rock star, but the idea of incorporating my iris painting into a necklace seemed doable. So, several emails, texts, and decisions later we came up a very special one of a kind piece made especially for Bono. Sheila used a gorgeous cross and Christ charm of an antique rosary that belonged to an Italian immigrant and hand strung gorgeous beads. A special touch is on the reverse side of my iris painting, a piece from an vintage song book titled “A Mother’s Love”. It is truly beautiful!

What were the odds that I would actually meet him and be able to present this? I mean, seriously? But it was one of those “why not?” situations in life and it was worth a try. And what on earth would I say if I had his attention? All along this journey I received encouragement that this was really going to happen. Even on the flight to NY when I shared the crazy idea with my neighbor when asked where I was going, she too said “It’s going to happen!”. Saturday, my friend Taffy Jo and I found our way to a place where we thought we may have a chance to meet him. And this happened…

I said something to him something like “This is an image of an iris I painted from my mothers garden.” and I told him about the cross and the charm and then showed him the back of the iris where the music is and then I said “My moms favorite flower was the Iris. She passed away this past year.” I was touched by the amount of time he spent listening and talking with me. He was truly touched. He said “Oh my gosh. How beautiful.” several times and then handed his hat and to me to hold so he could put it around his neck. After he placed his hat back on, I remembered I had a box too and handed it to him.

In the box were letters Sheila and I had both written to him because I did not know if I would have a chance to explain. (I included a few photos in my letter, one of them was my mom and I and told him a little bit about her.) When we were finished talking he gave my hand a squeeze and moved on. Thank goodness for Taffy Jo! She captured all the photos and was able to tell me more about his reaction and about the hand squeeze because I couldn’t remember much of anything. A fan standing nearby also took a video of our visit. I hope to hear something from him but of course I understand if I don’t. And I still would love to ship a large painting to him one day.

After Bono came out to say hello, Larry made his way around. He shook hands and said thank you to everyone. I thought that was so kind. And boy what a strong handshake by the way. And soon after Larry, Edge came around and shook hands. On my way out the door to leave for NYC, I literally at the last minute tossed one of my small egg paintings in my bag for the Edge just in case I met him. I mean, really? Well, we did meet him! And we took this selfie.

He was moving so fast, but Taffy Jo somehow managed to get the egg into his hand. You can see it here. I’m sure he was wondering what it was. On the back I had written the title and a scripture and my email address.

What I posted on instagram sums it up best. It’s indescribable when you have the opportunity to share your gift with someone who has shared theirs with you for as long as you can remember. Bono was not wearing the iris it at the concert we attended Sunday, but his performance of “Iris” meant even more to me after our conversation. Here’s a video someone else took of the songthat night here (the song starts at about the 3.00 mark). What he said about his mom is also true of me, so when he said “She left me an artist”, I unexpectedly lost it which completely caught me off guard. I think it was ultimately just a therapeutic experience.

Thank you for letting me share my adventures with you! I hope the Edge will enjoy the Egg oil painting and that Bono will enjoy the necklace. It sure was a blessing for me to share with them and I hope it blessed them too.

Dream Big!

A New “New Creation”

There is nothing like getting a fun package in the mail! When I found a package from artist Sheila Atchley in my mailbox I could hardly wait to open it! Sheila is a new friend of mine who lives in Knoxville, Tennessee.

I had been longing for one of Sheila’s gorgeous pieces and, after seeing a collection she posted online, an idea came to me. Why not work together on a piece? So I shared this crazy idea of mine with her and she was game! So I sent a piece of my artwork to her and the rest is history as they say…

Don’t you love it?! Sheila hand soldered and dreamed up this one of a kind piece of wearable art we titled “New Creation”. I love its length and weightiness…and the beading…and the details like the bird and the toggle! The pendent is hung by a removable clasp. Oh, and the reverse side is even special too…

So here’s the fun part!

YOU have an opportunity to have one too! Because this is a one of a kind statement piece, it has a hand crafted limited run of only 25. Pictured here is number 1, so there will be only 24 more made! They are priced at $75 (shipping is included).

Like they say, “Act now!” if you would like to have one too! Just click here to order via Sheila’s online boutique.

To learn more about Sheila Atchley Designs, visit her website: www.sheilaatchleydesigns.com

It has been an absolute joy to create and to share this with you!

The Throne of Agony

Author Sally Hogshead, who wrote that wonderful book “How the World Sees You”, sent an email newsletter this week that really resonated with me. And here I am. In the very predicament she described. I am in what she calls the “throne of Agony”! Ready to throw in the towel and feeling frustrated and discouraged.

Dr. Hogshead says this is part of a five step process to a creative breakthrough-

1) Possibility 2)Doubt 3)Agony 4)Epiphany 5)Finesse

My friends and I have called it “the ugly phase”. It’s when you really wrestle with a painting and panic sets in and you question if you are really an artist at all. Really, we do! And we’ve learned that it’s not THAT bad and it really will feel wonderful when we can breakthrough and make something out of a real mess. Ah, finesse! Will this one ever get there?

I’m in a panic because there are deadlines and people waiting on me to create something they will love. Realizing that I should stop for a while, I put the paints away and chose to blog about this “throne of Agony” moment and share a little insight into the studio life with you.

Like Sally Hogshead says, “The Agony is a valuable, healthy, and necessary part of creating anything worthwhile.” (And like Scarlett says, “Tomorrow is another day.”)

My Top 3 Books for Beginner Artists

We all have them. Books we love that made an impact in our lives and that we tell others about. Here are the 3 books I suggest the most.

1) “If You Want to Walk on Water You’ve Got to Get Out of The Boat”, by John Ortberg
My cousin gave this book to me years ago now. It was a time when I was nervous about putting my artwork “out there” on the market. This book is great for encouraging the reader to take risks and face your fears. You may have guessed it from the title, but the book uses the biblical story of Peter walking on water as an example throughout. Some people never get out of the boat! But like Ortberg says, “You are one step away from the adventure of your life.” I love his sense of humor too.

2) “The Creative Call”, by Janice Elsheimer
Whenever I meet someone who says they “used to” paint or put to use any sort of creative gift, I encourage them to just do it! I firmly believe that we each were created with some sort of gift that the world can use or benefit from. Sometimes we’ve stopped using our gifts because we’re too busy or maybe because we were once criticized. This book will help reignite your inspiration and help you work through anything that may be holding you back. It too is a faith based book and has suggested prayers and scriptures throughout. You can work through this alone but I think it’s great to share and discuss with friends.

3) “How the World Sees You”, by Sally Hogshead
This is a recent find. Sally Hogshead says we were all created “fascinating” and learn to be boring by being told to conform, color in the lines, and do like everyone else does. She says the trick is to un-learn boring! With her advertising expertise and years of experience, she created a test to determine what strengths you have that make you unique. (The book comes with an online access code for taking the test.) Everyone can benefit from this information. She also provides coaching and helpful tips on how to make the most of what makes you fascinating to get the best results for your business. It’s a positive approach focusing on your strengths

How about you? Do you have any books that you find yourself quoting or suggesting more than others? I’d love to hear about them!

Happy New Year?

In a recent post titled “How to Forget about 2014”, Donald Miller quoted someone who said this about life…the windshield is much bigger than the rearview mirror. I love that. People who focus too much on the rear view are less able to steer and make good decisions or changes for what’s ahead. I thought it might encourage someone if I were to share my rearview mirror story. I hope you don’t mind.

I have said more than a few times, “I can’t wait for 2014 to be over.” In January I found my mom at her home in one of those situations we all fear will one day happen. That was the beginning of an almost 6 month fight for her life and quite an emotional roller coaster. The exhaustion felt almost unbearable as did the heartache. She passed away in the middle of 2014. And the remainder of this year found my family and I dealing with grief. You hear about the phases of grief and about how time heals all wounds, etc. Indeed, grief is quite an individual thing and I am confident now that it varies from person to person.

Here comes the “but”. BUT there were jewels in 2014 as well and if I were to erase the year from my memory, or rearview, I would not have them to treasure. The ol’ circle of life kind of things, like the birth of our nephew Tucker and two beautiful weddings. Both weddings were at crucial times but in each of those times we were able to celebrate the moment. And dance. I love that! Somehow it’s like a rebellious response against whatever is trying to rob your joy. Despite it all, we knew this was good and right and we were able to set aside any pain for a moment. It didn’t go away. It just didn’t have so much power. Some would call that “surprised by joy.” And this year I traveled with my children on some pretty spectacular trips. I will never forget a breathtaking, clear and starry night when I was dancing and laughing onboard a boat in NYC’s harbor with a crowd of happy high school students and parents…

Life is so very hard. And life is so very beautiful. I experienced both simultaneously in 2014. I do believe God gives us more than we can handle. Because it’s in those times when we come to our own ends, we cry out to God to help us. He was faithful. He is faithful. Good bye 2014. I will never forget you.

Happy New Year!

Now let’s dance…